We all have a sense of self. Whether this sense of self is positive or negative is based upon our experience in life and our perceptions and assessment of ourself. Sometimes this assessment may be distorted or tainted by events and happenings in our environment, and possibly inherited emotions passed on from previous generations.
Our self-concept is a factual description of how we perceive ourselves, regardless of how others may see us.
When parents who are living together, or are separated/divorced, are engaged in conflict – children hurt and are in pain. Initially, they may not show obvious signs of distress but over time the build up can lead to an impairment of physical, social and emotional development. The child soaks in happenings within the environment and quite often tries to make sense of it and possibly even blames themselves.
Interestingly enough, even the parents cannot always see reason and can act immaturely and irrationally – so what chance does a child have at interpreting the behaviour they witness. The child usually is left feeling anxious, fearful, bewildered and confused.
Children do not wish to take sides as both parents represent their security. This sense of security eventually determines the child’s ability to trust themselves and the world around them. It can strongly impact their sense of self-worth, their view of themselves in relation to others, and their interpretation of where they fit in the dynamics of their relationships, and life in general.
A child’s self esteem can be nurtured or fragmented unwittingly by a parent or parents who are themselves trying to make sense of their own issues and dilemmas.
Most parents try their best from their life experience, intuition, and learned skill set and knowledge. Parents who are in conflict with one another are so engrossed in “winning” or “defending” themselves that they are oblivious to the affects on the child. The child may then take on faulty, distorted scripts and labels that hinder their ability to develop sound self-esteem and self-efficacy.
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Your fantasy relationship can be with the person you are with right now!
You may be actually looking at your dream man or dream woman but somehow the fire in the relationship has been slowly diminishing.
Relationship Counselling is about bringing the fun, passion and excitement back into the relationship.
You can exchange a monotonous, routine relationship for an emotionally connected one with greater intimacy and fabulous sexual engagement. When you learn to awaken the feelings that you already possess and become more aware and mindful of each other’s needs the “sky is the limit” for your relationship potential.
Krystyna’s counselling directive will support you in applying principals & strategies that will:
- Realise your own potential and increase the quality of your life together.
- Experience a renewed sense of challenge and excitement.
- Expand your understanding & awareness of what makes your partner tick.
- Turn your emotional disengagement to a desire to meet your partner’s needs.
- Recognise your repeated negative patterns.
- Create a willingness to be influenced by your partner and see things differently.
- Improve your well being by lowering stress and learning to release your feelings and get the emotional response you need from your partner.
- Increase your confidence by learning communication skills that make a difference.
- Enhance shared meaning, purpose, goals toward a happier future.
- Heighten romance, fun and sexual pleasure.
Life is not a dress rehearsal.
You are valuable, and your relationship with your partner cannot be left to chance. You can transform old responses into new behaviours and enjoy the relationship of your dreams.
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EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a surprisingly simple, self administered technique that has amazing results. It can be applied anytime, anywhere. Gentle and easy to learn it erases anxiety & fear.
This remarkable new healing technique is based on the ancient art of acupuncture combined with modern psychology. Studies performed at Murdoch University WA, and numerous reports from overseas show compelling results of improved well being and performance.
Energy blockages in the body are released, allowing blood circulation and body electricity to flow freely. This promotes emotional and physical healing.
Krystyna Noah’s approach to using EFT engages the client in such a way that immediate benefits are felt and long-term potency is evident. The combination of a tapping sequence coupled with relevant affirmations, engages the mind to work with the body.
Its powerful effectiveness has transformed many people’s lives.
There are no boundaries or limits to its application. Krys supports empowering her clients to use a variety of techniques and strategies so that the individual is engaged in paving the way for constructive change.
Being pro-active opens doors to personal growth and emotional freedom.
Change in our life is inevitable.
Failure to accommodate change can lead to mental and physical stress. EFT reduces or eliminates fears & phobias, past traumas, public speaking & performance anxiety, anger, relationship issues, self esteem, faulty beliefs & defensiveness, and many other common problems.
Medical trials have supported its powerful effectiveness transforming many people’s lives resulting in emotional & physical healing. Individuals feel a most welcome freedom after this technique is administered.
They are then able to make better decisions and wiser choices, due to the improved clarity in their thinking.
EFT has been shown to have immediate benefits and long-term potency.
This amazing technique can be used for:
- Addictions
- ADHD
- Allergies
- Anger
- Anxiety
- Back Pain
- Childhood Pain
- Communication
- Confidence
- Defensiveness
- Depression
- Eating Disorders
- Emotional Pain
- Family Conflict
- Faulty Beliefs
- Fear
- Fear of Flying
- Grief
- Impatience
- Insomnia
- Migraines
- Nightmares
- OCD
- Panic Attacks
- Physical Pain
- Public Speaking
- Relationships
- Relaxation
- Self Doubt
- Self Esteem
- Sports Anxiety
- Trauma
- Weight Loss
- Work Stress
Discover the Power of EFT
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Self esteem is an emotion.
It is the degree that we consciously or sub-consciously accept and like ourselves, despite our mistakes and human frailties. It determines what we think about ourselves and how we behave toward others.
Krys uses a number of invaluable tools and approaches to turn negative self talk, and negative thoughts into positive action.
She teaches clients how to break the destructive cycle of remaining in “think” and “feel” for too long. Getting stuck in this cycle inevitably leads to anxiety, low self worth, and depression.
Some approaches and strategies include:
- Recognising negative self talk & the triggers
- Determining rational & irrational thoughts
- Straight thinking exercises
- Strategies for challenging negative thoughts
- Genuine self versus survival self
- Authenticity test
- EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique)
- EMDR (Eye Movement De-sensitisation and Reprocessing)
Krys teaches her clients to value and care for themselves. Sometimes they remain stuck because of past hurts and trauma.
Healing will occur when there is a commitment to accept and understand the present reality, and a desire to change what isn’t working. It also requires an openness to be aware of that which is holding a person back from reaching their full potential. Actioning new strategies is imperative for true change to come about.
Krys manner and sensitivity motivates her clients to desire an enriched life of authenticity, and contentment.
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What do you want in a relationship?
Have you thought about what your real needs are?
For many couples when the seriousness of commitment and responsibilities eventuate the sex tends to take a dive.
Why does this happen?
People come together with their values, their fixed ideas on how things should be done. They come together with their expectations and assumptions.
Their individual perspective is a result of their life’s experience.
Quite often this can be then thrown onto the partner and the partner is expected to accept it – like it or not. At times it can come across far more subtly, but the feeling is still one of discomfort. Another obstacle that keeps people having the relationship they want is that they are looking for the relationship to be the solution to their problems. This approach tends to dis-empower both people in the relationship.
A partner cannot fix what you alone need to fix within yourself. It is not the partner’s responsibility to right the wrongs that you have experienced in your own life. You alone are solely responsible for dealing with, and bringing closure to pains from the past. If these pains and hurts are transferred onto your partner a destructive pattern begins to emerge.
Sex will dissipate very quickly.
Stages of Love
Consider the following points: Communication and connectedness are paramount to a great sex life. It is an intimacy that is far more satisfying than the physical one when you first met. Yes, your life with your partner should include plenty of romance. But don’t kid yourself and expect an unrealistic Hollywood fairytale.
The truth is that in the real world, being in love is not like falling in love.
- Falling in love is only the first stage of love. It’s impossible to remain in that stage. A mature relationship will shift from dizzying infatuation to a deeper, more secure love.
- Don’t make the common mistake of thinking that when the initial wild passion fades you aren’t in love anymore. The answer is not to start a new relationship so you can recapture that initial emotional high with someone else. The answer is to learn how to move on to the next stage of love for a different but richer experience. This moving forward together is the key element to enhancing your intimacy.
- The belief that sex is not important is a dangerous and intimacy-eroding myth. Sex provides an important time-out from the pressures of our daily lives and allows us to experience a quality level of closeness, vulnerability and sharing with our partners.
- Sex might not be everything but it registers higher (90 percent) on the “importance scale” if it’s a source of frustration in your relationship. If your sex life is unfulfilled, it becomes a worrying issue. On the other hand, couples that have satisfying Sex lives rate Sex at only 10 percent on the “importance scale”.
- Don’t restrict your thinking by considering sex to be something that only consists of the actual physical act. Touching, caressing, holding hands and any means by which you provide physical comfort to your partner can all be viewed as part of a fulfilling sex life.
Make time for Sex
Two busy people can equally be too busy for Sex. But don’t let the pressures of work and social commitments distract you from this essential part of a healthy relationship. While passion and lust naturally wane as a relationship becomes older, don’t become lazy and complacent when it comes to your Sex life. There’s plenty you can do to keep the passion alive, just use your imagination.
Organise your life to make time for romance. Be mindful of each others needs.
Keeping the relationship healthy and alive with a maintenance program of romancing is essential. If you truly love your partner you will not view this as a chore but as a pleasure – not only for your partner but also for yourself. Ladies remember that men need to be romanced as much as women do.
Sex cannot be viewed as a light switch that can be turned on and off. In actually fact the turning off resounds the loudest with this approach. Find time to laugh together and enjoy being in each others company.
When you hold hands, kiss or embrace it does not mean that there always has to be Sex. Learning to be romantic and considerate will always win hands down over pressuring your partner for sex.
It takes two to tango so it helps to be in step with one another by respecting each others needs and communicating the steps that will make your dance exciting, interesting, passionate and complete.
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